Dear Abby advises a person who is struggling to help their best friend without giving her or her new boyfriend money.

In today's column, Abby hears from a concerned reader who worries about the way her friend doesn't see what a loser her boyfriend is.

She works multiple jobs but still seeks handouts to cover costs for the man and his kid, and now her physical and mental health are suffering.

I’ve helped with money a few times and she always pays me back. But recently, after she asked me for money for food for the three of them, I learned they went to the movies instead. Now I feel used. This is just not OK.